Willpower's Not Enough: Recovering from Addictions of Every Kind
Facing Love Addiction By Pia Mellody
Spouses of Sex Addicts By Richard Blankenship
My Sexually Addicted Spouse By Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means (addresses the impact of the addiction on the spouse from the point of view that the partner has been traumatized)
Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal Lies and Secrets By Claudia Black
Anxiety & Depression
The Feeling Good Handbook By David D Burns (practical ways to overcome depression, conquer anxiety and enjoy greater emotional intimacy)
Boundaries
Boundaries By John Townsend and Henry Cloud (Christian perspective on setting boundaries with everyone)
Boundaries in Marriage By John Townsend and Henry Cloud
Codependency
Codependent No More By Melody Beattie (helps to identify codependent behaviors and patterns)
Facing Codependency By Pia Mellody
Lost in the Shuffle By Robert Subby (Explains codependent patterns and how dysfunctional families contribute to our codependent behaviors)
Forgiveness
How Can I Forgive You By Janis Abrahms Spring (one of the leading authors on the topic of forgiveness, not specific to sexual addictions)
Intimacy & Marriage
The Sex-Starved Marriage By Michelle Weiner Davis (helps build and strengthens the connection between sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy)
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love By Sue Johnson (Based on Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, which is the most successful couple therapy approach; written for lay audience)
Any book by John Gottman (leading researcher on couple communication)
Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships By David Schnarch (written to help couples overcome sexual and emotional blocks in their relationship, an advanced reading)
Intimacy Anorexia By Doug Weiss
Resurrecting Sex: Resolving Sexual Problems and Rejuvenating Your Relationship By David Schnarch (written to help couples overcome sexual difficulties and their resulting relationship problems, an advanced reading)
The Five Love Languages By Gary Chapman (helps you identify the way you receive and express love and your partner's way)
The Intimacy Factor By Pia Mellody
The Dance of Anger By Harriet Lerner
The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate By Harriet Lerner
Mindfulness
Sitting Still Like a Frog By Eline Snel (Mindful exercises for children)
Mindsight By Dr. Daniel Siegel
Parenting
Parenting
From the Inside Out By Daniel Siegel, M.D.
Self-compassion
Self-Compassion By Kristen Neff
Shame & Resiliency
The Gifts of Imperfection By Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW
I Thought it Was Just Me By Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (Shame and shame resiliency)
Daring Greatly ByBrené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW
Rising Strong By Brené Brown, Ph.D.,LMSW
Healing the Shame that Binds You By John Bradshaw, Ph.D., LMSW
Relationships (general)
The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict By The Arbinger Institute